My husband was also afraid to get a Basenji. Everyone he spoke to at work, etc. told him he was crazy because they'd all heard horror stories. THEN, he talked {via email, I think} with Sharron Hurlburt – I still have no idea how/where he even found her, LOL, as he did that behind my back -- and whatever she said reassured him.
We've been happy Basenji owners for three years now. While there are aspects of Basenji-ness that he's still not wild about, he is constantly amused by these dogs and loves them both very much.
Do your research. With proper preparation, you can be ready for whatever dog you get. But rest assured, you're not getting a black lab or a goldne retriever personality.
Basenjis are different, challenging, and WONDERFUL!!