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Looks like we have reconsidered the living together…..we tried three months and she has her beliefs and that will not change, so now its just me and the girls again....
And your right they have given me uncondional love no matter what we have gone through and they will continue to as long as they are with me. This was an experience that they have never been faced with and for that matter for me too, I did find that not everyone is a Basenji personDid the girlfriend just move out, or do you think the relationship is over? If you really want a future with this woman, I would suggest some sort of couple's counseling. (I'm sure talking to a clergy member would be out of the question, since they probably wouldn't advocate cohabitation.) Every relationship requires compromise, and if one party isn't willing to do that, it's not going to work.
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When I moved in with my boyfriend, I brought Blaze along. At twelve years old, he has always slept in my bed no matter what. Though my boyfriend did not give me an ultimatum (I would have walked), he was not pleased about having an indoor dog. The boyfriend refused to have the dog on the bed or the couch. It had something to do with personal time… So off I went to buy Blaze a huge body pillow for in the livingroom (right next to the fireplace) and two massive, pillowed baskets (one for the bedroom and one for the office). Blaze took some getting use to, but he routinely went to lie on his furniture. About three months after we moved in, I went for a shower one night, came out and saw the boyfriend snuggling Blaze on the bed. Boyfriend was sleeping with this look of happiness, and Blaze was staring up at me with this "please help me" look.
We still have Blaze's furniture, which he uses frequently, but once in a while, he deems it appropriate to mingle with us riff-raff on the bed or couch (usually food is involved).
Pets are always learning, it depends on how you teach them. But in the end, the Basenji will always get his/her way, they are just extremely patient. -
Not sure where it will head, she has hard feelings about precious and how I let her come inbetween our relationship. What started out as a nice arrangment had already begun to change, she had told me in the begining that she was a dog person, guess not as much as me.
It has really been good to have all of the input from all of you :), they have been in my life a long time and they are a major part of my life. I was making some compromise's, but I think this would have been a bigger problem down the road.
By the way I'm in Locust Grove Ga and I will get some pictures of the girls on the site….. -
Welcome & sorry about the terrible situation you're in. It must be terribly hard to finally have a "human" to share your life with & not have her want to adjust to your already well adjusted family :(
The importance of your family routine should not be minimized simply because we're talking about dogs. We're not talking about object but live beings that have habits & routines just like humans only without words & thumbs :) Otherwise it's very logical for them to be a priority in your life.
I think asking someone to make a major change in your household is pretty critical to a relationship. What if you were living with your daughter?? And she wanted your daughter to make changes like not watch tv when both of you were watching tv ??? It would not be acceptable then either.
I hope if she really cares for you she'll be willing to accept your home as it is. A sign of true love :)
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So sorry that it didn't work out… and sometimes we all think that everyone agrees with our way of loving our animals.. and sometimes people think "OK, I can make them change when I move in"... answer of course is, we can't change people, at least not "just like that"... and your doggy kids would not understand the immediate change from being bed dogs to being shut out...
I am sure it was a tough situation all the way around...
Well said.
I'm sorry it didn't work out either…I'm sure you'll find someone who will fit in with you and your girls. Hmmm...BasenjiForumMatch.com? LOL!
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Well put two pictures out to view, one of each of the girls….....as far as the girlfriend there was no agreement on beliefs, we've called it quits.
Most likely for the best at this point… difficult as it was/is... As they say, things work out how they are meant to be.....
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I don't think it was a dog issue on her part but a control issue and you are right - there likely would have been more issues down the road.
My daughter is single and as she said with friends of either gender - if Thumper doesn't like them - they are not worth knowing (and thumper is very picky!)
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My daughter is single and as she said with friends of either gender - if Thumper doesn't like them - they are not worth knowing (and thumper is very picky!)
My husband was the first man that our family dog let me sit next to on the sofa. I knew then that he was a keeper. Most of our dogs have been good judges of character…..except for our psycho lab who had a VERY short list of people she tolerated.
Pat
